The ever-increasing rate of change demands that we work in teams – sometimes as leaders, sometimes as followers – but always as collaborators who support one another professionally and personally. Successful project completion depends not only on the technical skills of the team members, but also on how well the members get along with each other. The team’s technical skills are relatively easy to assess, but the intangibles that determine how well the individuals will interact have, until now, been far from apparent.
Google’s Project Aristotle
Google investigated over 50 years’ worth of studies done on team effectiveness, studied over 100 active Google teams, and found that that:
-“Teams that did well on one assignment usually did well on all the others. Conversely, teams that failed at one thing seemed to fail at everything.”
-Team members must know that they can be free enough to share the things that scare us without fear of others’ reactions.
–A team’s effectiveness was a function of how well the team members treated one another.
That final key finding seems logical, but what one person feels is polite or considerate, another may find to be rude and uncaring. If you have followed newspaper-advice columns, you probably saw that opinions on the columnist’s advice sometimes fill a spectrum of reactions from gratitude to hostility.
How can we explain these findings, and, more importantly, what can we do with the explanation to help guarantee successful team performance? First, let’s investigate the sources of upsetting feelings that can impede any relationship’s functioning.
The apparent source of upsetting feelings
If the sources of upsetting feelings were under our conscious, logical control, then it would be a simple matter of telling ourselves or each other to change that upsetting feeling immediately. And with practice, we could get rid of the upsetting feeling instantly whenever that feeling interfered with our best interests in a given situation.
But feelings arise spontaneously beyond our conscious control and defy our attempts to make them disappear. The apparent external source – an event, situation or someone’s behavior – of the upsetting feeling is not the cause of the upsetting feeling because the same external source will produce different reactions in different people.
Therefore, the sources of those upsetting feelings do not lie within our consciousness, but exist within our unconscious, where logic has no effect. Any logical action will have no lasting beneficial result as long as the sources themselves are left untouched. This is precisely why motivational talks, team-building seminars and classes, inspirational posters and group counseling have only short-term effects.
As long as the unconscious sources remain untouched, the results of their operations – the upsetting feelings – will be only be covered over by the veneer of the latest seminar, technique or consultant’s instructions. Eventually, that veneer erodes and the upsetting feelings will reappear because they never really left.
We call these sources of upsetting feelings “patterns” because they behave in repeating, predictable ways whenever an individual encounters an event, situation or someone’s behavior that triggers the pattern’s operation. The triggering itself lies within the unconscious, where the pattern is safe from any logical attempt to destroy it. You can find a detailed description of how patterns operate by clicking here to go to a page on our web site, where you will also find references to the scientific findings that prove their existences in each of us.
How to destroy the unconscious source of the upsetting feeling
The key idea here is that nothing, or ‘no thing’, can be ‘done’, which is where observation, or awareness, a ‘non-doing’ state gives you the only tool needed to annihilate the pattern. You need only to ‘not-do’, to merely be, in order to be successful in eliminating a pattern. The instant that you begin to ‘do’, think, say or act in order to destroy a pattern, you are back in your analytical brain, which is incapable of destroying the pattern. You need only to observe, without thinking, what is happening in the moment, which includes what you observe in your imagination. Your observation is all that you need, and you have that capability in its full measure right now. You have always had it, and always will.
Observation does not involve ‘doing’. Quantum mechanics has shown that whatever we observe, or focus our attention on, is altered. That is, merely observing the subject changes both the observer and the subject. For example, when you text someone or have a telephone conversation, your words change something within the person with whom you are speaking, and the person’s words, which have been influenced by your words, will change something within you. Since all ‘doing’ http://healthsavy.com about destroying a pattern is motivated by the pattern itself, there is nothing that you can ‘do’ to get rid of it. A pattern’s sole objective is its own existence and thus it will manipulate your perceptions to prevent its destruction.
How do you use what you now understand? How to not do? How to merely be? How to deal with a pattern that will always be invisible, never tires, has instant access to all of your and your ancestral history, knows where each of your “hot buttons” is and will always be beyond the reach of your analysis?
Easy: just use the power of your imagination. Like Perseus using a polished shield to avoid looking directly at the Medusa, you can easily use your imagination to look at an image of the pattern. Make an invisible bit of energy into a visible object. It sounds like some sort of ancient alchemical process, but if you have read this far you probably feel more than a little credibility in this material.
When an individual destroys the pattern that causes the upsetting feeling, that individual can see options that were previously masked by the pattern. Because patterns are holographic, their effects are not compartmentalized. Everyone around us is changed when we destroy a pattern within us. We unconsciously react to the behaviors of those around us and destroying an unconscious source of upsetting feelings and unwanted behaviors within us changes the unconscious reactions of those around us. When the senior leadership destroys those upsetting patterns within themselves, the entire organization’s culture immediately changes toward balance – responding appropriately to a difficult situation.
The insight to the results of Project Aristotle that are listed at the beginning of this article is that patterns are holograms in the unconscious. They do not compartmentalize themselves. The Eastern saying “How you do one thing is how you do everything” thus becomes understandable. A team that does well on one assignment does well on other assignments. Teams that failed at one thing seemed to fail at everything. Team members who are free of unconscious upsetting patterns are free to express themselves and ask for what they want. The results of destroying unconscious upsetting patterns within us are harmony and effectiveness. Over 40 years’ experience with the technique described in our book has shown these statements to be facts.
I would very much like to tell you that reading our book, “Imagine All Better; Breaking Repeating emotional and Behavioral Patterns We All struggle With is Easier Than You THINK”, in which we describe just how and why this method works, will allow you to destroy patterns within you with no additional assistance.
Unfortunately, that’s not practical. Our work with thousands of clients over the past 40 years has shown us that patterns are exceptionally tricky when it comes to preserving themselves from annihilation. Since we cannot possibly handle all the requests for assistance, we did the next best thing and developed an app for your smartphone or tablet. The app contains all of the insights we have gathered about how any pattern can possibly defend itself and uses those insights to guide your imagination to successfully destroy a pattern.
There is nothing for you to do, say, get, think, read, change, learn, affirm, tap or believe. The app and your imagination do all the work for you.
The app has enjoyed a success rate of over 90% within a 20-minute session after an initial session generally that lasts between 30 and 45 minutes. For the cost of a typical, single co-payment, $29.95, you can enjoy stress relief on demand wherever you may be. In addition, the app has no need for any details of the issue that you wish to resolve, so there can be no record kept of what you are working on. We do keep an anonymous record of your age range and sex, which you do not have to enter in order to use the app. We do record how long you spent in the app and where you exited. We use this information to let us know how effective the app is and what improvements we need to make.
You can click here to get to the main page of this website where you will find links to the app stores, or click on an app-store store logo below.
You can reach the ImagineAllBetter app developers (Dr. Richard Crowley and Vince Kubilus) at email@example.com.
(The price of the app, including free updates, is $4.99.)